My poor baby was up EVERY HOUR last night, crying, writhing, pooping and crying, peeing while pooping blood.... I really hope we can get in to see an allergist soon. He has his regular checkup on Thursday... I'm scared to get him vaxed because I don't want to overwhelm his little immune system. But I have to give him at least DTAP, this area is crawling with whooping cough because of all the anti-vaxers.
Night before last night was his first night in his "own bed" (adjacent mattress)... we both slept REALLY well. He only woke up 3 times. That was the best sleep I got since he was born. I've been using the No-Cry Nap Solution to work on fixing his anti-naps. Slow but steady progress.
I always have nightmares about the brakes not working while I'm driving.
Showing posts with label attachment parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label attachment parenting. Show all posts
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Saturday, March 12, 2011
We have movement! (15 weeks)
I felt it move last night! I sat up to get a drink of water and I sort of slouched over. The baby gave me a solid couple of nudges, as if to say "hey, sit up straight! give me some room in here!" So amazing... it's only the size of an apple and already is the boss of me.
(Notice my attempts to stay gender neutral. I can't wait to find out, but my midwife has still not gotten back to me about an ultrasound appointment in a couple of weeks).
It is so insane that I am already 15 weeks... in 5 weeks I will be HALFWAY THROUGH MY PREGNANCY. My sister was visiting for spring break last week, we made three bibs and a whole bunch of cloth wipes. My mom knitted a really nice brown, soft, wool hat. I told her to try and knit a couple of kitty ears to sew on the top (I know, it's pretty trendy, but probably the cutest trend of all time). My next project is to try and make a diaper cover. The only part I'm nervous about is the elastic, I have never used it in sewing before. As soon as I find out the sex I can start sewing clothing. I will try and get some photos up soon.
I've been trying to research attachment parenting groups in the area... it looks like they have pretty large memberships (100+ members) but scattered interest in monthly meetings. I keep hearing that my best bet is a La Leche League meeting, which is cool but I want to wait until I am a bit more pregnant before going to that. I'm really nervous that I will show up to the meeting place and find that my local chapter doesn't exist anymore. COME ON BREAST FEEDIN MOMMAS don't let me down.
The 14 month old I watch has a terrible cold. Her mom took her to the pediatrician and this woman totally man-handled her. I mean the poor baby is sick and scared, and she is being physically forced to go through the exam at top speed, crying and protesting the whole time. Her mom emailed me to ask if I knew of any attachment-parenting-friendly pediatricians in the area... I don't, of course, I haven't started my research in that area yet since all of my newborn care will be handled by my midwife. I'm going to send out the question to the homeschooler's list serv my mom is on, since a lot of those families are AP.
I have been thinking about names for the baby... I really like James Lucca and Clara Liffey but I don't want to look into the eyes of my baby and say "yikes, this is no Clara!". I want to have more options. Rosalind has always been my other girl's name, and our other boy's name is Rumi (apparently we are into L's and R's), but I want MORE choices! My friend Sam said her last baby was 6 months old before she finally named him (she wanted to name him Rowen but the dad hated the name, they finally settled on Owen). I kind of like the idea of giving it some time. But I also like the idea of being sure of my choice!!
(Notice my attempts to stay gender neutral. I can't wait to find out, but my midwife has still not gotten back to me about an ultrasound appointment in a couple of weeks).
It is so insane that I am already 15 weeks... in 5 weeks I will be HALFWAY THROUGH MY PREGNANCY. My sister was visiting for spring break last week, we made three bibs and a whole bunch of cloth wipes. My mom knitted a really nice brown, soft, wool hat. I told her to try and knit a couple of kitty ears to sew on the top (I know, it's pretty trendy, but probably the cutest trend of all time). My next project is to try and make a diaper cover. The only part I'm nervous about is the elastic, I have never used it in sewing before. As soon as I find out the sex I can start sewing clothing. I will try and get some photos up soon.
I've been trying to research attachment parenting groups in the area... it looks like they have pretty large memberships (100+ members) but scattered interest in monthly meetings. I keep hearing that my best bet is a La Leche League meeting, which is cool but I want to wait until I am a bit more pregnant before going to that. I'm really nervous that I will show up to the meeting place and find that my local chapter doesn't exist anymore. COME ON BREAST FEEDIN MOMMAS don't let me down.
The 14 month old I watch has a terrible cold. Her mom took her to the pediatrician and this woman totally man-handled her. I mean the poor baby is sick and scared, and she is being physically forced to go through the exam at top speed, crying and protesting the whole time. Her mom emailed me to ask if I knew of any attachment-parenting-friendly pediatricians in the area... I don't, of course, I haven't started my research in that area yet since all of my newborn care will be handled by my midwife. I'm going to send out the question to the homeschooler's list serv my mom is on, since a lot of those families are AP.
I have been thinking about names for the baby... I really like James Lucca and Clara Liffey but I don't want to look into the eyes of my baby and say "yikes, this is no Clara!". I want to have more options. Rosalind has always been my other girl's name, and our other boy's name is Rumi (apparently we are into L's and R's), but I want MORE choices! My friend Sam said her last baby was 6 months old before she finally named him (she wanted to name him Rowen but the dad hated the name, they finally settled on Owen). I kind of like the idea of giving it some time. But I also like the idea of being sure of my choice!!
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Parents and Parenting
As my husband and I weight the options regarding our choice of home birth midwives... it's clear that this decision will be the first of many that my parents disagree with. Everyone has to deal with their parents disapproving of certain things that they do with their kids, but I have chosen to live with mine so I have to navigate those waters more often than the average new mom.
Basically, I hope to be half the parents that my parents were. They did an awesome job, and I know they will be perfect grandparents. Looking back, I can appreciate even more now the things they did then. As I read up on all the things that are going to be important to me as a parent, I realize that I already know how to teach most of it to my kids thanks to them.
There are a couple of things I would change, though. We as kids RARELY threw temper tantrums, but when we did, the response was the same from my dad:
Dad: "What does crying get you?"
Kid: "....." (crying)
Dad: "What does crying get you???"
Kid: "......nothing." (more crying)
I can't remember if my mom also did this, or if she supported it at all. But I can remember having my feelings hurt by it, and even worse, I can remember watching it happen to my younger siblings and making a mental note not to cry because it was, apparently, an unwanted way to express your feelings.
Considering that in every other way they were model attachment parents, this little bit of history confuses me. All they were trying to do was let us know that our behavior wasn't a good way to communicate, but in the process they cut off the communication. It's also possible that this rarely, rarely happened but since it was so upsetting for me, I remember it as happening every time. It's also possible that since they were so sensitive to our needs, and tantrums were so rare... when it happened they didn't know what else to do since they had honestly tried everything else.
But back to the original concern... choosing a midwife. There are only two that are legally practicing home birth in my area. One is obviously the most experienced, but the other made us feel more comfortable and our heart says "pick her". Of course, my parents would prefer the more experienced one out of their necessary concern for my well-being. But out of concern for my own well being, I have to say that it is more important to me that my midwife makes me feel relaxed and confident. A natural home birth is 99.9% your mental attitude and only .1% emergency situations (almost literally).
Here is a local house that runs on 100 watts of electricity! They reccomend this really amazing thing... a solar cooker that is small, portable, and AWESOME. I really want one. Hell of a lot easier than building an outdoor oven (though, of course, the resources to be able to build something made of metal and plastic will be gone eventually, and an outdoor oven can almost always be built). I'm not a fan of building houses of wood since that requires a whole lot of trees, and it is really high maintenance when it comes to structural integrity, water damage prevention, pest damage prevention, etc. But it sure looks pretty.
Basically, I hope to be half the parents that my parents were. They did an awesome job, and I know they will be perfect grandparents. Looking back, I can appreciate even more now the things they did then. As I read up on all the things that are going to be important to me as a parent, I realize that I already know how to teach most of it to my kids thanks to them.
There are a couple of things I would change, though. We as kids RARELY threw temper tantrums, but when we did, the response was the same from my dad:
Dad: "What does crying get you?"
Kid: "....." (crying)
Dad: "What does crying get you???"
Kid: "......nothing." (more crying)
I can't remember if my mom also did this, or if she supported it at all. But I can remember having my feelings hurt by it, and even worse, I can remember watching it happen to my younger siblings and making a mental note not to cry because it was, apparently, an unwanted way to express your feelings.
Considering that in every other way they were model attachment parents, this little bit of history confuses me. All they were trying to do was let us know that our behavior wasn't a good way to communicate, but in the process they cut off the communication. It's also possible that this rarely, rarely happened but since it was so upsetting for me, I remember it as happening every time. It's also possible that since they were so sensitive to our needs, and tantrums were so rare... when it happened they didn't know what else to do since they had honestly tried everything else.
But back to the original concern... choosing a midwife. There are only two that are legally practicing home birth in my area. One is obviously the most experienced, but the other made us feel more comfortable and our heart says "pick her". Of course, my parents would prefer the more experienced one out of their necessary concern for my well-being. But out of concern for my own well being, I have to say that it is more important to me that my midwife makes me feel relaxed and confident. A natural home birth is 99.9% your mental attitude and only .1% emergency situations (almost literally).
Here is a local house that runs on 100 watts of electricity! They reccomend this really amazing thing... a solar cooker that is small, portable, and AWESOME. I really want one. Hell of a lot easier than building an outdoor oven (though, of course, the resources to be able to build something made of metal and plastic will be gone eventually, and an outdoor oven can almost always be built). I'm not a fan of building houses of wood since that requires a whole lot of trees, and it is really high maintenance when it comes to structural integrity, water damage prevention, pest damage prevention, etc. But it sure looks pretty.
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